Your Boundaries Are Your Freedoms

"I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it."

- Maya Angelou

The boundaries that we set are the freedoms that we allow ourselves. Boundaries show where our freedoms begin and where another person's ends in regard to your personal limits. The beautiful thing about boundaries are that they are 100% and completely under your control. They are monitored and made by you. Your values, your privacies, your ideals are all the framework of your boundaries. But, with making these boundaries comes the part that we see as "hard" - enforcing them. And the only hard part comes in dealing with other people's reactions to the boundaries we set.

But think of it as this scenario:

You are watching a movie and in this scene, the antagonist is taking something that isn't theirs although the protagonist told them not to. You would automatically tell the protagonist to speak up and stand up for themselves and their boundaries, right? Why isn't it that easy for us to stand up for ourselves and our boundaries in the same way?

Once a boundary is set, your job is done. You have done your part of honoring your limits and respecting yourself. The reaction of the other person, is none of your concern because you were true to yourself and them.

That is all that is ever asked of you is to be true and transparent.